I feel like I really want to have my period but I also don’t want to. My friends and cousin that have it say it’s annoying and not very fun. I also saw spotting a little over a month ago and I got really scared but nothing happened the next day. I also really want it though because all my friends that have it are very mature but my friends that don’t have it are kinda still like kids and I don’t think I’m immature but I don’t want people to think I’m still a little kid, you know?

It's totally normal to feel like you want your period and don't want it at the same time. Lots of people feel that way because it's a really big step and it changes things, but also it can be annoying, like your friends said.

Why it feels like a big deal

Okay, so periods are a big sign that you're growing up, and your body is getting ready for a new stage. It's not really about being mature or immature, because everyone's body changes on its own timeline. Some people get their period earlier and some later, and it doesn't mean anything about how grown-up you are on the inside. But I get why it feels that way, because it's such a visible sign of puberty.

Spotting can happen for different reasons, especially when your body is starting to get ready for your first period. It's like your body is doing a practice run, or just figuring things out. It doesn't mean your period is starting for real right then, but it can be a sign that things are changing.

What to do about it

My best advice is to just let your body do its thing. There's no rush to get your period, and there's nothing you can do to make it come faster or slower. Just focus on taking care of yourself and enjoying being a kid right now. And when it does happen, you'll be ready! If you want to know more about the signs that your first period might be coming, you can check out this quiz: how close is my first period?