Today my friend told me that she got her period a little over a month ago. I felt kinda emotional but i waited till i got home to let it out. I don’t really know why i was upset i think it’s because we are very similar in terms of development so I wasn’t expecting her to get it before me and it makes me want my period so much more

Okay so it totally makes sense to feel a bit emotional and even a little jealous when your friend gets her period, especially if you two are usually super in sync. You are not alone in feeling this way, seriously. It's like, you've been waiting for this big new thing too, and then someone else gets there first, which can be a real bummer.

Why you might feel this way

It's really normal to compare yourself to your friends, especially when it comes to puberty stuff. Like, you're both going through similar changes and expecting similar timelines, so it can feel a little surprising or even unfair when one of you hits a big milestone first. It's a huge step in growing up, and you're probably just excited and ready for your own body to catch up!

What to do about it

Give yourself a break, these feelings are valid. You can talk to your friend about it if you feel comfortable, or just let yourself feel it and move on. Everyone's body has its own schedule for puberty, and that's okay. You'll get there when you get there! In the meantime, you can definitely pay attention to the signs your body is giving you that your period is coming. Things like:

• Your breasts starting to develop
• Pubic hair growing
• Having a growth spurt (getting taller really fast)
• Vaginal discharge (that clear or white stuff in your underwear) starting a few months before

Your period will arrive when your body is ready, and there's nothing you can do to speed it up. But it IS coming! If you want to get a rough idea of how close you might be, there's a quick quiz on this site: how close is my first period?