Ok but every month I get cramps and see spotting wdtm

Cramps with a bit of spotting every month can be your period, because periods can be very light, especially at first. If you have never had a proper period yet, if the spotting comes between your periods, or if anything about it feels off, tell a grown-up what you noticed: they can help with supplies and check with a doctor if it isn't a period. Any bleeding or pink or brown spotting before you turn 9 means telling a grown-up so a doctor can check.

Your uterus is a muscle, and it squeezes to push out its lining. Stronger squeezes are what hurt, which explains the cramps. For the bleeding part, most people bleed for 3 to 7 days, and a first period can be much shorter and lighter. Tell a grown-up if you need a new pad or tampon every 1 to 2 hours, your period lasts more than 7 days, you pass clots bigger than about 2.5 cm, blood leaks through to your clothes or bed, you miss normal things because of your period, or you feel tired or out of breath a lot.

What can help with the cramps

A heat pad, or a hot water bottle wrapped in a towel that a grown-up fills, can help too, and in a few small studies heat worked about as well as medicine. There are medicines that help period pain, and a grown-up decides if you take one, which one and how much, for your age and weight. They tend to work best when a grown-up gives them as soon as the cramps start and keeps them going for the first two or three days.

Tell a grown-up if the pain stops you doing normal things like school, doesn't get better with the pain relief a grown-up gives you, or keeps getting worse from one period to the next. Also, tummy pain that comes back every month with still no period means telling a grown-up so a doctor can check.